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Pamela Gray of New Jersey is the Founder and Director of Girls Like Us Inc. She is a graduate of Clark Atlanta University and holds a degree in Speech Communication and Theater Arts. For more information on Girls Like Us Inc. and the programs it offers, visit Girls Like Us on the web at www.girlslikeus.org or email Girls Like Us at info@girlslikeus.org
❖ One of the highest risk factors for depression is being a girl. By age 15 girls are twice as likely as boys to experience depression. Girls who live in the suburbs are 3 times as likely to experience depression.
❖ Depression often manifests itself in a nagging feeling of self- condemnation or worthlessness.
❖ Mild depression in girls is often caused by interpersonal conflict, gender role expectations or even relational problems.
❖ Depressed girls are also at risk for anxiety, eating disorders, academic failure and interpersonal relationship problems.
❖ Between 20 and 40% of adolescent girls with major depression develop bipolar disorder within 5 years.
❖ As many as seven percent of teen girls, who develop major depression, will commit suicide.
❖ Suicide is the third leading cause of death in girls ages 15-19 and the fourth leading cause of death in girls ages 10-14.
❖ Girls are two to four times as likely to attempt suicide.
❖ Being overweight, a victim of sexual assault, inclined to fight, and frequently getting drunk are other factors that increase a girl’s thoughts of suicide.
❖ As a whole, girls who try or threaten to commit suicide do so as a plea to be loved and to have deeper relationships. It is a demand to be noticed. They often do not follow through because they still hold some hope. Ignoring their behavior can cause them to lose that hope and ultimately take their lives.
❖ Alco-pops (flavored alcohol beverages) like Sky Blue, Smirnoff Ice, Frozen Paradise and Bacardi Ice are marketed towards adolescent girls and are known as “gateway” beverages.
❖ One third of all teen girls over 12 have tried flavored alcoholic drinks.
❖ One in four admits to driving home after drinking or riding with someone who had been drinking, and one in six admits to being sexually active after drinking.
❖ On average, girls have their first drink at 13 years old.
❖ An estimated 4.5 million girls ages 12-17 reported consuming alcohol. (2004)
❖ Girls who abuse alcohol are 11 times more likely to have an eating disorder.
❖ Teenage girls who are heavy drinkers are 5 times more likely to engage in sexual intercourse, and one third less likely to use condoms, which can result in pregnancy and STD’s.
❖ Alcohol is involved in up to two thirds of all sexual assaults and date rapes among
❖ Dating in mid-adolescents (under 17) is often for three reasons: status, recreation and self-esteem reasons. Girls who date for affirmation and affection often will alter their values and personality to be accepted by the guy to whom she is attracted.
❖ Dating patterns have changed and the term “hooking up” and “friends with benefits” has become prevalent in the adolescent community. Hook- ups and Friends with Benefits relationships are void of every “need” girls seek in relationships and can have long term consequences in future relationships.
❖ Girls ages 15 to 24 experience the highest rate of intimate partner violence. Girls who have been in abusive relationships are four times more likely to abuse drugs or alcohol, six times more likely to become pregnant and eight times more likely to attempt suicide.
❖ Dating violence rates are higher for girls who have had sex at an early age. Seventy percent of girls who had sex before age 13 report they had sex against their will.
❖ Eighty two percent of rape victims say they are permanently changed.
❖ One and a half million women encounter sexual or physical violence from their partners each year.
❖ Nearly one third of adolescent girls reports being physically or psychologically abused by their dating partners.
❖ In 2002 the CDC did a study which showed that 10% of girls ages 13 and under, 26% of 15 year olds, 40% of 16 year olds, 49% of 17 year olds and 70% of 18 year olds reported having vaginal intercourse. It was also reported that 40% of girls who had sex before they were 15, were forced.
❖ Sexual abuse has increased significantly for girls ages 10-14.
❖ It is estimated that 20% of all women have been sexually abused by the age of 18.
❖ About 1.1 million adolescent girls become pregnant each year. Thirty five to 40 % of these abort, 10- 14% have miscarriages, 5% put their children up for adoption and 45 % raise their children alone or with their extended family.
❖ Females between 16 and 21 years old have a 50% higher rate of HIV than males in that age group.
❖ Of the 3 million new Chlamydia cases diagnosed each year about half are girls ages 15 to 19. The highest rate for gonorrhea is in girls ages 15-19.
❖ Many girls see oral and anal sex as safe alternatives to intercourse.
❖ Girls require a higher degree of nurturing in their friendships than guys. Often if that attention is not received, girls seek high risk friendships. Relational aggression among girls, cliques, friends with benefits and gangs are all examples of high risk friendships.
❖ If a girl’s friends are sexually active, she is more likely to be sexually active.
❖ One third of all early adolescent gang members are female.
❖ The need for acceptance, approval, and belonging is vital during the teen years. Teens, who feel isolated or rejected by their peers and family, are more likely to engage in risky behaviors in order to “fit in” with a group.
❖ Some experts believe that teenage girls frequently enter into sexual relationships when they are seeking acceptance, approval, and love.
❖ Girls who use socially “accepted” drugs like alcohol and tobacco tend to do so in groups. Girls who use illegal drugs are more likely to be introduced to them by boys, often while on dates.
❖ Rand Corporation released a study that found heavy exposure to sexual content on TV shows is strongly related to a teenagers’ initiation into intercourse or their progression to more advanced sexual activities.
❖ Studies show that teens who listen to sexually explicit music or watch sexual movies or videos were almost twice as likely to start having sex within the next two years, compared to those who listen to little or no sexually explicit media.
❖ Most teenage girls admit that they have learned about sex or gotten ideas from what they heard in music lyrics, seen on television and in movies, and seen on the Internet.
❖ Advertisers in fashion magazines seek to create a level of dissatisfaction with girls’ body image so their product will be bought to attain body image satisfaction.
❖ Sixty two percent of teenage girls say they are trying to lose weight. Forty percent of girls in 1st -5th grade report that they want to lose weight. Girls as young as 7, have been identified with eating disorders.
❖ Teenagers underwent nearly a quarter million cosmetic procedures in 2004.
❖ Girls who weekly read fashion magazines are more likely to develop eating disorders. Sixty nine percent of girls who read those magazines say that the way the models look impacts their idea of how the perfect female body should look.
❖ Self -Injury is a growing phenomenon among adolescent girls. This is when a girl inflicts physical harm on herself, usually with the intention of easing her mental or emotional state. Those who are self-injurers are not trying to commit suicide.
❖ Self- Injury includes cutting or burning of one’s skin, intentional bruising, scratching, and interfering with wounds. In extreme instances self-injurers break bones, amputate their own digits, eat harmful substances or inject their bodies with toxins.
❖ Some of the risk factors for self- injury include difficulties with impulse control, eating behaviors, substance abuse, childhood illness, low capacity to form and sustain stable relationships, fear of change, low self- esteem and childhood trauma.
My husband and I are selling our house and all we own to pursue what we believe is God’s will for our lives. As soon as our house sells, we will be hitting the road full time and touring the country to raise awareness for non-profit organizations that are saving and changing people’s lives.
During my last nine years of ministry, I have met so many amazing people who are truly making a difference and shaking things up. I have learned a great deal about life-controlling issues and the statistics affecting both men and women, as well as children. I have done volunteer work for some incredible organizations and my only complaint is that not enough people know about the hope that is being offered. As a result, people are suffering because they do not know what is available to them.
I want to spend the rest of my life doing all I can to meet the people who are making a difference, rally the troops, pool our resources, start support groups and raise awareness while helping these organizations raise funds to support their cause. We want to get the word out and let others know that there are answers for their dilemmas. There is hope.
We will educate, empower and equip people with the life-changing tools they need to make healthy life choices. I want to have answers when someone cries out for help. Most people have heard of the huge non-profit organizations that do so much good in the world, but there are so many organizations doing great things that not enough people have heard of and we want to change that.
One of my favorites npos is headquartered right here in Nashville. Mercy Ministries was founded by Nancy Alcorn over 25 years ago and is a global ministry that is literally saving the lives of girls ages 13-28 who are battling life-controlling issues such as eating disorders, addiction, self harm etc. They provide a home for the girls, free of charge, and have over a 90% success rate. Most all of the Mercy girls go on to lead very healthy and productive lives and the gift goes on. Teen Challenge has an 85% success rate in dealing with substance abuse. They provide homes for both men and women of all ages. I could go on and on.
The problem is that these wonderful npos cannot change and save lives if no one has ever heard of them. That’s where we come in. Our primary focus is to travel from city to city across the country, meet pastors and founders of npos and see what we can do to raise awareness and funds for them in their communities.
Statistics have shown that women are twice as likely to suffer from depression as men are and tend to isolate thinking they are crazy or that they are alone in it and no one would ever understand. For those of us who have been involved in raising awareness we know that simply isn’t true and that if people only knew how many others were suffering…all around them…everywhere they go…we could help greater numbers.
We want the church to be at the forefront of this very focused mission that will seek to set up support groups and offer hope and encouragement to those who are hurting. I have personally witnessed radical life change and I know what is possible, but I am sad when I speak of these things and then someone in great need of the services offered walks up to me and says they never knew this or that npo existed. We may only make the difference for one person, but we are going.
Here is how you can help. We need to meet everyone we can who would be interested in joining our efforts and introducing us to these awesome people around the country. Please stay tuned for more details and statistics.
2010 Music, Motivation, Missions-Minded Ministry in Motion- Raising awareness and funds for Non-Profit organizations across the US that are radically changing and saving people’s lives on a daily basis.
We are going to need your help in planning our upcoming US Tour. We are open to any ministry opportunities there may be in your area. We are working now to map out a travel schedule so that we can manage our time to the best of our ability and cover as much ground as possible. This tour is in the planning stages so we are wide open for venues right now.
Many of you have written to ask how you can help? What we need right now is contacts for churches, Christian bookstores, radio/tv stations etc. Ultimately, it would be awesome to find Christian leaders who are willing to head up street teams of believers who are movers, shakers and great networkers. That way we can accomplish as much as possible.
We are planning to work in FL this winter, January-April, then move west from there. We know for sure that we want to spend at least a week in each city, so that we can visit the surrounding areas within a 3 hour drive.
A typical week would look like this:
Monday-Tuesday: Days set apart for travel, phone calls and networking opportunities including followup from the previous weekend.
Wednesday Evening Church Service:
I share my story through music. This usually lasts one-hour. (Concert/Speaking)
Thursday: Sing during the afternoon at a nursing/retirement home, then sing/speak at a prison that evening.
Friday-Saturday: Women’s/Seniors/Youth Events (ie. Retreats, Conferences, Luncheons and Lock Ins)
2 Sunday Services (am/pm): I share my story through music up to one hour. (Concert/Speaking/Testimony)
Our goal is to meet the families and friends of our friends who can refer us and help us build strong and lasting relationships. Word of mouth has been our best marketing tool for 9 years now and we are praying for God to expand our territory so we can reach more people. We need the names, numbers and email addresses of Pastors, Christian bookstore owners and radio/tv station managers who would be interested in helping us visit their communities and move across the country. We need to meet as many people as possible who want to change this world. One life at a time. One city at a time.
Are you familiar with any gospel stations in your area? I want to visit them face to face, introduce myself and thank those who have played my music.
Thanks in advance for providing us with the contacts we need to make these things happen. Looking forward to seeing you soon!















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